Marriage And Divorce
What is Marriage ? Marriage can be defined as the legal, traditional and formal union of a matured man and woman to become husband and wife. This is also know as Matrimony or Wedlock.
Divorce : this is the legal or formal way of dissolving marriage .
MARRIAGE: Most or all Christians believed that marriage is a gift (favour) from God according to proverbs 18:22: Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
And also it’s or completion according to 1 Corinthians 11:9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
Marriage is created for some reasons which must be fulfilled by God . Marriage is Ordained by God according to the book of Genesis2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
1. MARRIAGE IS FOR HELPING OURSELVES
According to the book of Genesis 2:20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
So that the man can be helped and not be alone was the reason for creating a woman . Note the woman was part of a man so she was made from a man .
2. TO BE FRUITFUL AND MULTIPLY
According to the Bible In Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
In marriage, we are to reproduce so that we can have more people to work in Jehovah folds, he had ordained us so that we can subdue and replenish the earth he created .
So therefore to reproduce, sex is an accomplishment this is what is described as the holy intercourse that has to do with the covenant of blood and the outcome leads to pregnancy which thereafter we’ve a child and latter children to become family . Here we replenish to produce family , society even church .
If there’s no marriage no family, if there’s no family no society, and no church or coming together of saints .that’s is why marriage is strictly based on God instruction .
Marriage is an institution and the foundation and formation of production. God created marriage as a loyal partnership between one man and one woman. Marriage is the firmest foundation for building a family. God designed sexual expression to help married couples build intimacy.
Marriage mirrors God’s covenant relationship with His people.
3. TO ENCOURAGE OTHERS AND HELPING THEM SPIRITUALLY
God did not just want us to just have relationship with Him alone. He created others so that we might also learn to live with and love those He places in our lives.
He said in 1 Corinthians 12:18-21, But now God has placed the members, each one of them, in the body, just as He desired.” If God is in the process of placing us into the body of Christ (the Church), doesn’t this also mean He places each one of us with the spouse of His choice
4. REFLECTION OF GOD IMAGE
Christian marriages are to reflect God’s image:Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness.… So, God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (Genesis 1:26-27).
Each individual (as a male and as a female) is created in the image of God. However, a married couple has a uniqueness of capacity and ability to reflect His image as husband and wife.
When we recognize our purpose is to reflect the image of God, we see that we have an opportunity to be a witness to a lost world. After reading and knowing all these should we now divorce ???
Let’s see what the Bible’s says about divorce and why some people divorce , thou I might not tell accurately why people divorce because there are different reasons.
Behind every man action but to mention in few according to how Holy Spirit gave to me Reasons for Divorce .
1. INFIDELITY: This is the having and extramarital affairs with other people apart your partner, this is the main reason responsible for the breakdown of most marriages that end in divorce.
This is one of the most common causes of divorce. The reasons why people cheat is still not well enough some said due to anger along with differences in sexual appetite and lack of emotional intimacy.
2. MONEY :Money makes people go crazy and funny even very nice at times ,Why is divorce so common due to financial incompatibility? According to divorce statistics, a “final straw” reason for divorce is lack of compatibility in financial arena.
Everything from different spending habits and financial goals to one spouse making considerably more money than the other, causing a power struggle can strain a marriage to the breaking point.
Money really touches everything. Even the Bible says money answer all things A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things Ecclesiastes 10:19.
It impacts people’s lives, Its so vivid that money and stress sometimes do seem to go hand in hand for many couples. Financial troubles can be categorized as one of the biggest causes of divorce.
3. LACK OF COMMUNICATION: Communication is the most important tool in marriage and not being able to communicate effectively quickly leads to resentment and frustration for both, impacting all aspects of a marriage.On the other hand, good communication is the foundation of a strong marriage.
Losing temper at your partner, or not taking or not talking enough throughout the day, making nasty comments to express yourself are all unhealthy methods of communication that need to be ditched in a marriage. Poor communication is one of the biggest reasons for divorce.
4. CONSTANT ARGUMENT AND STUBBORNNESS: Constant arguing kills many relationships. Couples who seem to keep having the same argument over again often do so because they feel they’re not being heard or appreciated.
Even some might know that the partner is actually saying the truth but stubbornness and the act of not feeling sorry will overwhelm the person and that can leads to the perish of the marriage.
Many find it hard to see the other person’s point of view, which leads to a lot of arguments without ever coming to a resolution, which can ultimately be a cause of divorce.
5. LOW OR NO INTIMACY: Not feeling connected to your partner can quickly ruin a marriage because it leaves couples feeling as though they’re living with a stranger or more like roommates than spouses.
This can be from a lack of physical or emotional intimacy and isn’t always about sex. If you are constantly giving your spouse the cold shoulder, then know that over time it can become the ground for divorce.
Ignoring your partner’s sexual needs is being called the number one cause of divorce in recent times. Let’s stop here now what did the Bible teach us on divorce??? 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife Or have we forgotten the Bible says what God as put together let no man put asunder ? Mark 10:9.
The reason is because they are no longer two but one according to Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate Or haven’t we read it In Malachi 2:16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that He hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
God Called us to peace according to 1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. Let’s learn how to forgive and forget so that God will keep forgiving us , if we show mercy God will also be merciful to us.